Choices of Submission.

Discipline is the means for solving life’s problems. All disciplines are a form of submission.

The Discipline to Discern what we are or not responsible for is most crucial, since we must go through the existential suffering of choosing when and what to submit and what not to submit to.

When we were young we more or less had to submit, but when we grow into adulthood, we have to make decisions about when and how no to submit toward others values.

Not all submission is good.

We must figure out to what extent we are going to submit to society and to what extent we are going to disagree with society, just as we must choose our values every step of the way.

Ultimately, we have to choose whether or not to submit to God and, indeed, even choose the kind of God such as Dough boy that we are going to submit to.

The term “higher power” first appeared in, or at least was initially popularized by, the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. The term implies that there is something “higher” than us as individuals (Dough Boys) and that it is appropriate to submit ourselves to that something higher, be it Live, Light Truth, or God. “Thy will, not mine, be done is a glorious expression of desire for such submission, and the key word is “Will.” Submission implies an effective submission of the human will to something than (Dough) than itself. “God” is light, God is love, and God is Truth.” People need not be believers in God, but if they are to be healthy, they must submit themselves in all affairs to these attributes of God.

Submission to the light might be defines as submission to the choice of consciousness and hence sight-both external sight and, particularly, insight.

Then there is the choice of whether to submit to or not, the decision whether to extend or not extend oneself. This is not simplistic especially when dealing with dough boy. Love is often very subtle which is opposite of dough boy mentality and mysterious , Love is well defined as the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.

This definition is an acknowledgment that love is far broader than dough, Monks and nuns, for example, don’t have dough, but many are great Lovers in true sense of the word.

There are numerous paradoxes related to love of dough that test myths and common thinking in our culture.

The best way to address this unhealthy paradox is what it is not in order to combat our cultural stereotypes.

For instance, we have been told that it is better to give than to receive. In our unhealthy application it would be more appropriate to say that it is just as good to receive as it is to give.

Neurotic guilt over this issue promotes bitterness and more friction than love in the true sense.

For these individuals it is obligatory to discount and as destructive as to give it away.

We have been taught that “love is gentle, love is kind” – not with dough boy where many times one must display what is called “TOUGH LOVE”. Love is often ambiguous; sometimes it requires being stern.

Reality is that we cannot love well if we are constantly extending ourselves to others and not nurturing ourselves. SUBMISSION TO LOVE DOES NOT MEAN BEING A DOORMAT!

Throughout our lives we must choose what is and what is not our responsibility , so we must also choose , even if we are submitted to true love, when to love others and when to love ourselves.

The Key of loving begins with work on self. We can’t begin to love others well until we lovingly work on ourselves.

When dealing with dough boy you most likely will find them trying to heal In the name of love attempting to convert another usually selfishly, controlling, and non loving despite all the ways we may think otherwise.

Because of New Millennium indoctrination in the name of social advancement, many people equate Love with material and feel they must live up simply due to others expectations.

The paradox is that many times just being who you are rather than constantly focusing on what you do and what you have is the more loving approach and question of importance that people ought to be able to figure out answers for themselves.

Now we come to the matter of truth which dough boy fears, is complex and demanding than merely accepting scientifically proven facts or following the scientific methods of a laboratory think-tank.

Dedication to reality-to the truth- is one of the four basic disciplines of living well.

Doughboy’s occasionally withhold a portion of the truth under guise as loving thing to do, but even in this tiny bit of “fudging” with the truth become potentially dangerous compelling to offer stringent criteria for when telling white lies might be permissible.

THE FACT IS THAT WITHHOLDING A KEY PIECE OF TRUTH FROM OTHERS IS OFTEN AS LEAST DECEPTIVE AS AN OUTRIGHT BLACK LIE. SUCH LYING IS NOT JUST UNLOVING; IT IS ULTIMATELY HATEFUL.

EVERY INSTANCE OF IT ADS TO THE DARKNESS AND CONFUSION OR WORLDS, CONVERSELY, SPEAKING THE TRUTH- PARTICULARLY WHEN IT REQUIRES SOME RISK TO DO SO – IS AN ACT OF LOVE.

ITS DIMINISHES DARKNESS AND CONFUSION, INCREASING THE LIGHT THE WORLD DESPERATELY NEEDS.

WHEN WE LIE, WE ARE USUALLY ATTEMPTING TO AVOID RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR ACTIONS AND WHAT IS IMAGINED TO BE THEIR PAINFUL CONSEQUENCES.

I am forever grateful to my parents for teaching me during childhood a most pithy and powerful expression: “FACE THE MUSIC.

MEANING FACE UP TO THE CONSEQUENCES; DON’T COVER UP; DON’T LIE; LIVE IN THE LIGHT.

Why “MUSIC”. Why should facing up to something potentially painful be called facing music when we normally think of music as pleasurable and Lovely? Perhaps the choice of word is deep and mystically appropriate. For when we do submit ourselves to the DICTATES OF HONESTY, we are I harmony with reality, and our lives, although never painless, will become increasingly melodic.

We have been speaking of the choice for TRUTH as if lying were something primarily done to another.

Not so. Our even greater proclivity is lying to ourselves. Of course the two types of dishonesty feed off of each other in an EVER-ESCALATING ORGY OF DECEPTION. BUT WHILE WE CAN DECEIVE SOME OF THE PEOPLE SOME OF THE TIME, CAPACITY OF SELF-DECEPTION IS POTENTIALLY UNLIMITED AS LONG AS ONE IS WILLING TO PAY THE PRICE OF EVIL OR INSANITY AND THESE ARE THE ULTIMATE COSTS.

Self-deception is not a matter of being kind or gentle with oneself; on the contrary, it is as hateful as lying to others, and for the same reason: it adds to the darkness and confusion of self, augmenting the SHADOW LAYER BY LAYER. Conversely, the choice to be HONEST with oneself is the choice for psycho spiritual health and, therefore, the single most loving choice we can ever make for ourselves.

In the realm of personal belief, we are faced with many complex choices, and the certainties of science cannot readily be relied upon. If we choose to believe something is TRUE, is it therefor true?

If so, submitting to Truth would be nothing more than submitting to ourselves.

Since GOD is synonymous with TRUTH, in choosing to submit to GOD we are submitting to a TRUTH HIGHER THAN OURSELVES. We are endowed with the freedom to choose, we can submit to the wrong things.

There are only two states of being: SUBMISSION TO GOD AND GOODNESS, OR THE REFUSAL TO SUBMIT TO ANYTHING BEYOND ONE’S WILL and WHICH AUTOMATICALLY ENSLAVES ONE TO THE FORCES OF EVIL, TO “THE FATHER OF LIES.”

C.S. LEWIS BEST STATES:”THERE IS NO NEUTRAL GROUND IN THE UNIVERSE; EVERY SPLIT SECOND IS CLAIMED BY GOD AND COUNTERCLAIMED BY SATIN.”